So apparently Valentine’s Day started in the 18th century by some roman ruler combining a festival commemorating the martyrdom of two saints (both named valentine) and another where drunk men beat up women with animal hides.
Think relationships have definitely been over-romanticised, to the point where it doesn’t work out for either parties.
I watched this anime recently, where one of the characters said ,”you can’t choose who you fall in love with, you just do.”
Well isn’t that magical-sounding.
It’s like made up to be some sort of unavoidable spell that you can’t ever break free from.
Okay I guess maybe you can’t choose who you’re attracted to. If you find someone attractive, you’ll always find them attractive. It’s like a fact.
If you like the look of roses, you’ll think roses are nice. But you might buy a sunflower instead because you want to buy a sunflower. You’ll still think roses are nice, but it doesn’t change the fact that you’ve bought a sunflower and want the sunflower. (Not sure if this analogy makes sense but I think a flower analogy would be much appropriate for the occasion)
But you can choose who to love, even though you might not be attracted to them at first.
Actually I’ve always wondered, does romantic love always have to involve attraction?
Like biblical romantic love.
Could someone possibly romantically love anyone as long as they are God-fearing?
Or is there something else that’s got to be in the formula?
What is romantic love anyways? Is it the kind of love that makes you appreciate a person much more than how you’d appreciate a friend?
Okay so like for Jacob, he had this really strong love for Rachel, but I’m not sure if he loved Leah too, romantically.
It was definitely “romantic love” concerning rachel, because he was completely obsessed with her, okay maybe devoted would be a better word.
Would his overpowering feelings for rachel justify his love for her more than his love for Leah?
Think I’m really just asking, do feelings really matter? As much as function.
Like the function of a relationship is supposed to glorify God, to represent the love between Christ and the church, and non-Christians might see such love and have no choice but conclude that it really comes from God.
You can do that without being crazy attracted to a person.
In fact it might make it even clearer because then you won’t ever idolise the person.
In a conversation I had with sis tiff, she told me the guys in our church aren’t very daring and they don’t ask girls out.
I told her maybe they just didn’t find girls they “liked” enough.
Do you really have to “like” someone enough to marry them?
That’s what the common consensus is now, you just gotta have the feels, if not it’s not real, or it’s not meant to be.
What if you chose someone on the premise that you’d be good partners? Like partners in life, teamwork. Working well together and handling things well together.
I think some people might find that cold, like a purely functional marriage. I talked to sera about this before, and she told me she must be attracted to them if not she wouldn’t even consider it. We were talking about how Caleb and her worked pretty well together and were quite complimentary but she just didn’t find him attractive.
Honestly a lot of relationship issues stem from having dysfunctional perspectives and beliefs on what love is.
Okay I really gotta sleep my nose is so stuffy and blocked with mucus and my head is starting to hurt and my eyes are burning a little, FROM A BOUT OF BAD FLU not heartbreak haha HA I’m so funny